My mother is 86, and she is declining. Things that used to be easy for her
now seem completely foreign. She was a programmer, writing software before I
could read, so it is very strange to see her like this.She no longer uses a computer. If I mention some photos I found online, she
asks if there’s any way she can see them, as if she has never used the internet.
This is a new reality for me, but is easier than a year or two ago when she
still tried to be constantly online. As things got more confusing for her, she
struggled and complained “the computer is haunted.” Now she doesn’t have the
computer as a source of friction, but also not as a center of activity.In many ways, she is following a…